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Mental Health | Deciding to be happy is the start of the journey

True happiness is something that involves a fixed connection between head and heart. It's different for everyone. Photo: Shutterstock
True happiness is something that involves a fixed connection between head and heart. It's different for everyone. Photo: Shutterstock

The first step towards achieving happiness is to decide to be happy.

That decision can be life-changing. But the decision itself is only the start of the journey. Sad people become happy people through a process.

True happiness is something that involves a fixed connection between head and heart ... and it's very personal.

Establishing that connection is one thing ... maintaining it and nurturing it is something else altogether.

After the decision comes the choice. Choosing to be happy can be a daily process ... something done with intent, purpose and commitment at the start of every day. For some, it can be an hour by hour proposition.

The quest for true happiness can be marred by the false belief that sadness should be eliminated.

The reality is we are emotional beings. We will experience highs and lows.

Along with decision and choice comes acceptance ... acceptance of the fact that we are responsible for our own happiness; acceptance of the fact that sometimes it will take more work than others; acceptance of the belief that it's worth the effort.

The most important thing to remember is that the power lies within.

There are choices and decisions only we can make; that we must make.

The choice is ours to make - negativity or positivity, sadness or happiness? We only have one life to live.

  • Gary Bentley is a Rural Aid counsellor